Homeschoolers often have large families. In our little co-op, back when we started, we each had one or two kids (three for Lorri, but two were already grown). Now I still have two, but the Molinas have seven, the Dorns have seven and the Hsiaos have six. Our co-op has grown!
I am the oldest of eight. As such, I have heard some of the rudest things I have ever heard spoken, about large families. To save well-meaning folks from sticking their proverbial feet in their mouths, I have compiled a list of things I have actually heard from people that are fine examples of things NOT to say to large families and why they should not be said:
acquire all eight kids at once. Like the training of an Olympic athlete, she took on a little more, then a little more until she became the powerhouse mama you see before you. People also never seem to think of the reality of the age spread of large families and that older ones help the younger. And no, it is not a burden, it is a lesson in responsibility and the value of life.
Ask yourself this when you are tempted to comment negatively – Which of these children would you say should never have been born? It is a matter of valuing human life. It is a matter of believing that we are wonderfully made and that we have purpose. Let us examine our hearts and see where judgment should be put away and love and humility worn in its place.
And this is for all of you hard working mamas – what you do matters!
Jesus said that whatever we do for the least of these we have done for Him. Changing diapers matters! Teaching capitalization rules – again – matters! Praying with and for you kids matters! Dishes matter, laundry matters, playing silly games with your kids matters! Do those little things to serve Jesus today with a full heart, knowing that He sees and smiles.
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